Category Archives: Family

Remembering 911

16 years ago, when 911 happened, I was driving to our office in the Buckhead area of Atlanta. That morning had been like most mornings, where our girls left for school, I got some coffee and settled into the one hour drive to the office. At the time, I was part of a small brokerage company with two very close friends called ThompsonCalhounFair. When I say small, I mean small as in the three of us plus one.

I remember parking in the garage and strolling as usual to the building and up the elevators to our little 1,000 sq. ft. office. I walked in and Mark was sitting in Al’s office and they looked like they had just lost their best friend. Mark ask “have you heard?” I said “heard what?” and he said “it’s bad, really bad.” I said “what are you talking about, I didn’t have the radio on coming to work” and he and Al proceeded to tell me about first airplane that hit the first tower and how the news media think it was a terrorist attack. Well, that got my attention.

We went across the street to the Marriott Courtyard where they had a TV so we could see what was going on. About 20 min into us watching the news, the cameras focused live on a second plane that was flying near the Trade Center and then we, along with most of America watched as it flew into the second Trade Center building. No one said anything because we all knew what it meant. We watched live coverage of people jumping from the tower which was 110 stories tall and my stomach was tied in knots. I don’t remember how much longer, but it wasn’t long, maybe 20-25min and we watched as the first tower collapsed to the ground and people were running for their life. Then a few min latter we watched as the second tower collapsed and I knew our world, as we knew it had just changed.

Not knowing the extent of the terrorist attack and where else it may happen, I jumped in my Chevy Tahoe fully prepared to hit four-wheel drive and basically do whatever it would take for me to get to my family. I made it my girls schools that were still operating and checked them out and made sure Elaine was home. Once I had my family together we watched the as the security of America and the world changed that day.

There are moments you can remember in exact detail about where you were and what you were doing. That was one of those moments for me and I will never forget it. On this day, September the 11th, 2017 the 16th anniversary of 911, let’s remember what America means and what it stands for and the good about who we are. Let not a very few small-minded journalists who write editorials for news outlets lead you to believe that America has lost its way. It hasn’t and we haven’t. We simply live in the best country on the face of the globe. KT

Direction versus intention

The other day I heard a pastor speak on this topic and it rang true for me, so I wanted to give my take on the subject.

Direction versus intention is an often a misunderstood idea. Just because you say “I wanted to,” “I intended to,” I meant to,” go one direction in your life doesn’t really mean that much. It is really about the actual direction you are going. It’s like if you are in Atlanta and you want to go to Florida but your car is pointed north, it really doesn’t matter what you intended to do, rather it only matters the actual direction you are heading. Make sense?

I am a hotel broker and we sell hotels. Over the years, I have given a speech to other brokers more times than I can count. It is the same exact philosophy as the Florida example. It goes like this. Pick your financial objective for the year, divide the income by the average income per sale. Divide that by the number of deals you must have on the market and then divide that by the number of pitches you must make and you will know the number of annual calls you need to make in order to earn what you set out to earn. Then lastly, divide that annual number by 52 weeks and you have then solved the way to hit your financial objective. When you do this, you know the number of calls you need to make today. When you don’t make the calls today and tomorrow, you in effect are announcing now that you really didn’t intend to make your annual goal. You don’t have to wait six months. If you are honest with yourself, you know today what your true intentions were.

The point you ask? In sales, you can have all the intentions and desires you want, but if you are unwilling to make the calls today and tomorrow (point your car toward Florida) you will not meet your desired destination. I cannot tell you how many times I have brokers in my office in September unsure why they don’t have more on the books. When I review with them what they did earlier in the year, it becomes clear that they and they alone decided earlier in the year to be right where they are.

So, with all this explanation ask yourself, what is my true intentions for my family, finances, education, work, health and general life? Then listen not to what you SAY you want, rather look at the actual direction you are heading. KT

Them, without me

Them, without me

Have you ever had a thought cross your mind for the first time and you think, where did that come from? Well, that happened to me the other day. It is a little morbid but as I thought it through, I realized that at some point in most everyone’s life, they have this same thought and concern so I decided to address it in this blog.

The thought that crossed my mind was, if I should pass away early from this life, is my family ready? Have I prepared for this possibility? Have I told them what they need to know from their husband, dad and father in-law. Have I set a good example for them to follow? Are financial matters in order? Have I taught them how to live right and honest and straightforward? Have I lead them to the Lord? Have I poured into their lives what a proper dad and husband should have done?  In short, will my wife, my daughters, my son in-laws and grand babies be ok if I am not here?

How is that for a wake-up thought? Ha

So, that day I started doing a mental checklist on the questions above. While there could be improvement in the status in each area, I felt comfort knowing that I have poured enough into my wife, daughters, son in-laws and grand babies that they could go on without me. They are incredibly strong, intelligent, resilient and beautiful and they will handle life in the greatest manner.

As you read this blog ask yourself, is my family ready? Have I done what I am supposed to do to get them prepared? The good news is, if you are reading this, it means you are still with us and there is still time to get the “them” in our lives ready. KT

The refrigerator door

This is a post I wrote several years ago and wanted to share it again. It is called the refrigerator door.

The life represented by the pictures and drawings hanging on your refrigerator door is much more important that what is hanging on your office wall. People, men especially seem to get this confused. If you are ever in doubt which is more important to you just look at what is hanging with magnets on your refrigerator door and it will remind of what is most important in your life.

At the office you can have all manner of awards, commendations, trophies, accolades and when you die all those things will be meaningless. The items hanging on your refrigerator door are what will mean the most to you when you get to the one yard line of life and began to look back over your years.

Recently, I was up alone reading at night and thinking about this very thing. I got up and walked over to our refrigerator door and began to look at our lives displayed with little magnets. I realized that right before me on the refrigerator door was the essence of my life and what I hold most dear. When I got to the office and looked at the items hanging on the walls, I realized that at my funeral none of those items will be displayed for the people to see. The items on the refrigerator door are the ones that will be seen as meaning the most to me.

Sometimes in life when the world is closing in and the lines between work and home began to merge and get confusing, step back and look at your refrigerator door. It will remind you of what is important and who is important and where you need to be focused during your living years. We all have to go to work if we want to eat and raise a family but work doesn’t have to be what identifies who you are and your self esteem does not have to be determined by your work. In fact, your greatest work is with the people pictured on your refrigerator door. KT

Sifting through memories

The other day I was think about how many times at funerals, people attending and the ones that are speaking, must sift through the memories of the deceased to find ones that are good, wholesome and worthy of repeating at the funeral.

Have you ever known a person that lived such an exemplary life that upon their death, the attendees at their funeral didn’t have to sift through the memories of the person to speak respectful of the deceased? Over the years I have attended many funerals but one in particular I remember, because I was attending for the family members, not in memory of the deceased. The deceased was a scoundrel in life and I noticed that at the person’s funeral that not one family member was shedding a tear. What a way to be remembered. The opposite was true of a sweet little lady that introduced me to my wife years ago. Her name was Arlene Estes and to my knowledge, I never heard a bad word spoken about her. She showed me kindness and love at a difficult time in my life when I was a senior in high school. When you think of a Godly woman, she comes to mind.

So, the point of this blog post is that if you are reading this, there is still time to create good memories for those you love and those around you. You could make changes in your life so that on the day you are called home, your loved ones will not have to sift through the memories of your life to pick out a few good ones. KT