Category Archives: Family

Sounds and smells

Smell is one the greatest memory functions we have. We have all experienced a smell from years gone by and the lightning speed with which your mind recalls that event and moment from your memory. Quite amazing really. Think of it as a search engine that God created that pulls data faster than any man-made computers.

Sound is also a memory function but not nearly as strong as smell.

Across from our office building there is a new office building under construction. This morning as I walked in, one of the pieces of equipment made an identical sound (pop pop pop) like an old John Deere tractor. I stopped where I was and turned to look in the direction the sound was coming from and was instantly taken back to my childhood to our grandparent’s farm on my father’s side. This farm was outside of Campbell MO where all the Thompson side of my family were from. My grandfather farmed his own land and had two old John Deere tractors. Anyone who ever heard one of these old tractors run, knows it had a unique sound unlike any other tractor. It basically made a deep popping sound that varied with speed.

This morning (in my memory) I was 6 years old walking with my grandfather while he talked to me and let me sit on the tractor, fed the livestock, how we walked around the home place and he taught me about animals, family, love and life. The one thing I remember most about him besides his love, was he was never in a hurry and always had time for me. He and my grandmother are buried in a graveyard on J-Highway between Campbell and Mauldin Missouri. In that same graveyard are my great grandparents and my great-great grandparents and all the children, cousins and Thompson family.

Memories are a funny thing to children and trust me, they will remember who you were. Most of all, they will remember if you loved them. KT

Two generations

That is generally how long you have to teach your family. It may be sad to say but in real life, your influence and impact usually extends for two generations. Your children and your grandchildren. Beyond that, it is unlikely your great grandchildren will be old enough to understand, interact with and be influenced by you. Kind of humbling isn’t it?

The difference maker is your written words that will remain after the lord calls you home. Take me for instance. At the age I am now, I would dearly love to have a diary, letters or life advice from my great grandparents and great great grandparents. How cool would it be to read my families words from the 1800’s about what life was like and the decisions they made and the life they lived. I have intimate knowledge of my parents and grandparents (two generations) but I was not old enough to be influenced by their parents. Hence the blog topic.

There are many people that never get to live out a full life and do not get the chance to love, lead and make an impression on their children and grandchildren. So if you have this opportunity, do not squander the time and miss the moments because I am told, that these become the most precious possessions when you get late in life.

Most people do not leave a legacy and written words for generations that come behind them and therefore beyond two generations, it is usually a gravestone that tells a short story outlined in the craved granite.

Tell them in writing what you believe and why and tell them about your life in 2017 and what the world is like now. In a hundred years these words will be valuable to your future family. KT

Selling against fear

I have a friend who told me the other day that he is afraid to make sales calls. He doesn’t know how to process when someone tells him no. He asked for my advice.

In personal life and in business life there are times to coddle someone and then there are times to be brutally honest with the person. My advice to him is going to fall into the latter category.

Being a salesperson with no formal education with a speech impediment, I have learned a few things about rejection. I also do not have a lot of sympathy for a healthy, educated full grown man who will let the fear of rejection dictate his financial future and that of his family.

Last night I was thinking about what my advice would be to this person and here is what I would tell him. I would tell him, picture your adult children coming to you for advice on how to deal with fear and picture yourself giving them advice based on how you overcame it. There is not a motivational book or speech or meeting you could go to that would be a better teacher than just being perfectly honest with yourself.

We all have a story to tell about our lives and we all get to decide how we want the story to go so that when our children do come to us for advice, and they will, we will be able to say, based on my experience, this is what I would do. KT

What a wonderful life

Jimmy Stewart was the main actor in the 1946 classic movie, it’s a wonderful life. At the end of the movie, Jimmy Stewart realized that he had in fact, touched other people’s lives and had helped those around him and would be remembered for having lived a good life.

I don’t know if this is true or not, but I believe when people get close to the end of life, that they don’t talk about money, houses and cars. They don’t talk about those things because they no longer matter when one is facing mortality. At a funeral you never see a picture of the person’s car or a picture of his office or and their sales trophies. Why is that? Well, I believe it is because the most important things in life are not purchased with money. They are your spouse, your children, your grandchildren, your friends and those people closest to you.

This week I have been able to see each of my immediate family members at least once. What a gift that is. I have been able to hug and kiss (except the son on-laws) each person and tell each of them that I love them. I heard a person talking lately about all the relationships they would fix and or change if they only have a few days to live. I can honestly say, my family knows I love them because I tell them each time and there isn’t any unresolved issues.

So when I think about the Jimmy Stewart movie, I am reminded of what a wonderful life God has given me. KT

Christmas movies

Without sounding to much like a sap, I have really enjoyed the Christmas movies this season. They all have the same components. Start with frustrations/problems that change to hope and then they experience a seemingly failure and then they all end with a Christmas miracle. Ha.

They are just like my other favorite movies, Rocky (all 7), Rambo, Rudy, Tombstone, Jason Bourne, Jack Reacher, Top Gun, John Wick and the most beloved movie of all time, White Christmas with Bing Crosby, Danny Kaye, Rosemary Clooney and Vera Ellen.

I find that Christmas movies are peaceful, restful and happy and the good guys always win. They allow you to enjoy the most pure form of entertainment. The bad guys always get left behind and the god guys always succeed. What more can you ask from a movie? When it is over you feel good and are relaxed. Again, what more can you ask from a movie?

During the rest of the year I am just like the next guy who loves to watch action movies where the good guys just blister the bad guys and wins the war or the football game. That said, during Christmas I really enjoy the happy and uplifting movies. I guess I am getting old. Ha.

If you don’t believe me, get a DVD or Netflix of White Christmas with Bing Crosby and It’s a Wonderful life with Jimmy Stewart. After you watch those two movies, especially, It’s a Wonderful Life, then you can judge whether what I am saying has any merit.

Merry Christmas. KT