Category Archives: Life

Routine, same ole, same ole

This is my 776th blog post. For the past several months, I have seen family members and friends deal with health issues, losses, and unexpected passing of a loved ones. Today I wanted to write something about this but just couldn’t put it into words. Life is precious and is a gift from God that we may not appreciate until something changes.

I went back and looked at the very first blog post I wrote in 2014 and it was about a normal routine day. It’s that day when there is nothing special, nothing planned, no excitement or variations, rather just a normal same ole, same ole day. That is the one we take for granted and may not truly appreciate it until you don’t have it anymore.

Like many things in life, we don’t want it until we can’t have it anymore.  Life and what you thought was going to happen can change in a moment of time. Its not until that change happens that we really understand we don’t have anywhere near as much control as we thought we did.

Tell those closest to you that you love them. Don’t hold back. If you have children, never let them leave your sight without telling them you love them. Hug your friends and tell them they are important. The bible has a passage in Ephesians that says, ‘never let the sun go down on your anger.” Think of all the people that never got the chance to apologize and make things right. I think if the Lord stood in the doorway today, he would tell us to fix it while we still can.

I am not saying a routine life should always be our goal. We all need some change, variation, and adjustment ever now and again. Sometimes we don’t know how blessed we are until an event or a conversation happens that changes everything. Therefore, take an inventory today of your blessings and yes, you may be changing diapers, washing clothes, making sales calls or just simply doing the same thing you did last week, but sometimes understanding how quick things can change helps us appreciate what we already have. KT

How to ruin a good day

There is an old saying that goes like this; “you can’t change the past and you can’t change the future, but you can ruin the present by worrying about both.”

There is difference between worry and anxiety. Worry resides in our mind and anxiety affects both mind and body. Worry is usually specific where anxiety is more general. Worry is about actual situations, anxiety is more, what-if thinking. Worry is usually more temporary where anxiety is longstanding. Worry doesn’t usually impair function, anxiety does. Last one – If worry persists, it can turn into anxiety.

Anxiety is like the old Lay’s Potato Chip commercial – “you can’t eat just one.” Anxiety feeds off worry and gets stronger each day you worry until one day you look up and you are gripped with a fear that can affect the way you live.

We can’t change past decisions because if we could, I would be a gazillionaire. We really (when you think about it) can’t change the future but we can have an impact on that future by the decisions we make today. Life is never carefree like the guy laying on some beach for the rest of his life, but we can choose today as the diving board toward a better future. KT

Underdogs

Babe Ruth said, “you just can’t beat the person who never gives up.”

I have always been drawn to movies that are based on true stories like, Rudy, Invincible, Miracle, Secretariat, etc. There is something about an underdog winning that I have always enjoyed. In every one of those movies, they all have one thing in common. An actor that portrays a real person that just wouldn’t give up.

The apostle Paul was much like that in real life. He was persecuted and beaten for the gospel’s sake, but he never gave up. One such story is the the book of Acts and took place in the town of Lystra. A mob of religious people dragged Paul outside the town walls and stoned him until they were sure he was dead and then left him there. Later Paul got up and brushed off his clothes and went right back to the town center and started preaching again. He just wouldn’t give up.

There are times and relationships that you have no choice than to give up on. We all know situations like that. What I guess I am talking about is the person that gives up quickly. When you make a habit of giving up easy, the problem is it becomes a habit that can affect your life for many years. I supposed the advice is to give your best and don’t leave anything on the table. Try as hard as you can. I believe when you do that, you can rest easy knowing you did everything you could. KT

Hunter / Miner

Over the years there have been many people that have tried the hotel brokerage business and only a small percentage have made it a career. The reason is simple, as with most any business and certainly the hotel business, you have to want it. There is no causal show up and lollygag through the day. When you think of every hotel broker that has made it in our business, that are all Hunters and Miners.

When think of a hunter, they wear all kind of gear.in preparation for the hunt including but not limited to a flashlight or headlamp to find their way. It’s the same for a miner. They are all geared up and have a headlamp to show the way. Sure, the weapons of their trade are important but its interesting that the most important equipment is the old fashion flashlight. Without that, there would be no mining and very little hunting.

In our business I have had maybe a handful of situations where an owner calls me and says upfront, I want to hire you to sell my hotel. It doesn’t work that way. Most of the time its like following the breadcrumbs. The brokers that have made it in our business find that first breadcrumb and then turn on their flashlight and dig out the business. Most brokers think they are above having to dig deep for a deal and that is why they last for a few years and then go on to an easier job somewhere.

Isn’t it kind of that way in many areas of our lives? Marriage, business, exercise, financial, relationships etc. You have to want it. Apathy (lack of interest) is the main reason that our efforts many times fail. If you are in sales, management, construction, office work or any other type of business, the one thing that clients and employers want to see the most when they talk to you, is the beam from your flashlight. It is right there in the eyes of the people that want it. KT

Wherever I go, there I am

I was talking with a man the other day about his career and he was telling me about all the troubles he has had at the various places he has worked. It seems like there was always a boss that he didn’t like or visa versa and strife seemed to always follow him.

After a pause I ask him if maybe he was the problem. He looked at me like I had lost my mind because it couldn’t possibly be him. I then began to walk through the last several jobs and what the conflicts were, and I could see that he began to understand what I was saying.

Which brings me to the point of the blog. Wherever I go, there I am. The good thing about getting older is you have those memories of past experiences to pull from that help you know how to respond in the present. In my own life, I can remember many times I wished I hadn’t said what I said. The problem is that once it is said, it can never be unsaid. Even though the person may forgive you, that same person will always remember it. It never goes away.

The bible is full of wisdom and two quotes that have always stood out to me is, we should treat other people like we want to be treated. The second on the list is, you will reap what you sow. It means that how you respond is how other will respond to you. Its not only factual, its biblical.

If you fix the one in the mirror first, its amazing how it seems to fix all the others. KT