Category Archives: Life

Me first living with leftover giving

I wish I could think of these catchy phases, but I can’t. I was listening to Andy Stanley yesterday and he used this phrase, “me first living and leftover giving.”

My mentor in life (Harmon Born) told me years ago his view of personal financial advice. He said when you earn money, give 10%, save 10% and live off the 80%. That is incredibly simply yet it could be the best thing you could ever do. See, the giving part keeps your heart humble, the saving part strengthens your hope for the future and living on the rest, helps keep your spending in check.

What Andy Stanley was saying was that so many people use it all on themselves and if there is any leftover, sometimes they give. People that live this way very rarely have any leftover and more times than not, they live from paycheck to paycheck.

There is something very deep spiritually when a person chooses to have a giving heart. I can’t explain it in the vernacular, but you already know what I mean. Additionally, there is something about having money saved that helps you sleep better and have more rest and peace. The person that spends everything they make just seems to be in a constant state of unrest.

So, don’t be a “me first living and leftover giving” person. Instead be a “me first giving and leftover living.” KT

Influence – know when it’s time to change

I am not there yet, but I can only imagine that one of the most difficult steps in a person’s life is when they choose to retire. I personally don’t believe it should be based on years worked or your age. I think it should be based on influence. Take Bill Marriott for example. He is 89 years old and still carries enormous influence at the company his family started. Look at Bill Gates. He is 65 and could you imagine someone asking him to retire just because of his age?

I met a guy one time named Bob and he was in his mid-70’s. He still referred to himself by his nickname of “Big Deal Bob.” Well you can already imagine what I was thinking. Bob should have retired many years before but still believed himself to be in the game and influential. The truth was Bob was neither. It hurt my heart a little seeing him still trying to be what he used to be instead of what he was now.

I believe it is far better to hang up your cleats when you still have some influence left, instead of waiting until it is gone. Again, while I am not there, I just believe people respect the person who chooses the right season of life to roll down the door and look for the next thing in life.

A very smart lady (my oldest daughter) told me one time that the key to making that shift in life is to already be involved in the next phase. Basically, don’t wait until you end one thing to start the next. Pretty smart advice. KT

Ripple in the water

Last week, a very prominent leader in the hotel industry passed away from pancreatic cancer. When I say prominent, I mean probably the most recognized and important person in the hotel industry. He was my age and a great leader but more importantly, a very good man.

The day after his passing there were many news articles about him that was good to see but within a couple of days, it seemed that the hotel industry, and the news media simply moved on. It was almost like pulling your figure out of the water. It just closed back up quickly, and it was as though it never happened. This really saddened me to see this.

Clearly, for his family this was not the case where I am sure his presence will be mourned for years. The point I am making is this. Sometimes it seems that we pour our lives into the people that will remember us for the shortest amount of time and not the ones that will carry our memory with them. We all have obligations, jobs, and responsibilities we must do but as we go about our days, it is important to plan time with the ones that will remember you the longest. Certainly for me, and i would guess for you as well, is our family. KT

Our dogs never have a bad day

Our dogs consist of a little 5lb Yorkie and a short fat Sheltie. The Yorkie has the body or a squirrel and the heart of a lion. The Sheltie is just happy to be there.

Over the past year of the pandemic when business was questionable and loses were an everyday occurrence, the thing that never changed was how our dogs reacted every day went we came home.

They didn’t care what happened that day in the stock market. They didn’t care if someone got slighted or there was some stress at the office, or some company went bankrupt. They didn’t care what clothes you wore that day or if you even combed your hair. The one thing they did care about was if you were wearing your mask when you came home. Ha

Regardless of the day’s events, our dogs welcomed us home with unconditional love and acceptance. All they needed to complete their day was us at home. They tell you that one year in a dog’s life is the equivalent to seven years in a human’s life. I think I know why. They never get stressed, never say the wrong thing, never hurt someone’s feelings or get their feelings hurt. They are quick to forgive and their love is unconditional. I guess things like that is why a dog gets the same amount of love, joy, and peace in one year as the seven years it takes us humans.

That may be why when God created a dog, he gave them a name that was his name spelled backward. KT

Difference between a teacher and an educator

You may have seen this before but if not, here is a great story of the difference between a teacher and an educator.

A certain private school was recently faced with a unique problem. A number of 12-year old girls were beginning to use lipstick and would put it on in the restroom. That was fine, but after they put on their lipstick, they would press their lips to the mirror leaving dozens of little lip prints. Every night the janitor would clean the lip prints off and the next day the girls would do it again. Finally, the headmistress decided, enough was enough.

She and the janitor met and came up with a plan.

The next day she called all the girls to the restroom to meet with her and the janitor. She explained that all these lip prints were causing a major problem for the people that had to clean the mirrors. As she is telling the girls this, there were little yawns from the sweet little princesses. They were most likely thinking, “whatever.”

She asked the janitor to demonstrate how he cleaned the mirrors. The janitor took a long-handled squeegee and dipped it into the toilet and cleaned the mirror with it.

Since then, there have been no lip prints on the mirror. KT