Category Archives: Life

Being around the right people

I heard a guy say many years ago that the person you will be in five years will depend on the people you associate with and the books you read. The more I think about this statement the more I believe it is true. If you spend your time only around small minded people who talk about other people, you will become a small minded person that talks about other people. If you are around people with dreams, desires, and goals, you will become a person with dreams, desires, and goals.

In society today many people may not have the opportunity to be around people of influence, so they must find that association another way. Through the books they read. People learn the most by the people they associate with, but the second greatest influence is the books you read.

I get a chuckle when I think about how I learned to sell hotels. It was 1990 and the company I joined probably let me join just to prove the point that not everyone can sell a hotel. Ha. They thought you had to have education, contacts, experience and know the business. Well, that’s wrong.  What you needed was the desire. The company I joined didn’t have some training program that developed the broker. No sir. They had a metal two door file cabinet with seven listings in it. My training program consisted of the managing partner taking me over to that metal file cabinet and opening the doors and saying, “there it is, if you can learn it, great, if not, that’s ok too.” Then he walked away. You might think I am kidding but I am not. That was literally it. The point is, I learned the business by being around other hotel brokers and listening to them talk and watching what they did. That was the greatest teacher I could have had.

We often give our children guidelines that we don’t personally follow. We as parents want our children to be around good kids, wholesome kids, kids with manners, kids that plan on college, kids that have been raised well etc. and the list could go on for pages. We seem to want and even possibly demand these type friends for our children, yet many times we don’t look for these same qualities in our friends.

Trust me when I say, it’s likely you will be in five years much like the people you most associate with. Dreams, visions, and goals are most influenced by the people you are around.

Over my years I have hired many hotel brokers, and some have failed. Possibly it’s because I tried too hard to coddle them and train them when what I should have done was open the metal file cabinet and patted them on the back and walked away. Ha. KT

When “I don’t think I can” really means “I don’t think I am.”

That title may be a little confusing. Many times, when people say, “I don’t think I can,” what they really mean is, “I don’t think I am.” Huge difference. A deeper dive is they don’t see themselves as being talented enough, worthy enough, smart enough or capable enough. They have lost some of their confidence and therefore it is much easier to just say, “I can’t,” instead of what the true reason is.

We all go through periods in life when things are going good and periods when things are not going so well. It is in the not so good periods, that we sometimes lose some self-confidence and forget who we are and how we got here. This is what I want to speak to.

It is amazing how the first step can be so hard and so full of dread yet feel so rewarding once we take it. It could be the first step to an exercise program, completing a project, making a change that is long overdue, taking some new educational course, repairing a relationship etc. etc. and the list could go on for pages. Like any decent salesman, I have a call list for every day but many times I find myself looking for anything else to do other than simply call the list. When I take that first step and call the first name, it is interesting how much easier calling the second and third etc. becomes because I took the first step and called the first name on the list.

When you feel a little slower in your step or a little less self-assured, I find that doing a quick personal inventory is what helps me. I think through all the areas of my life (family, friends, work, financial, socially) and it doesn’t take long (for me at least) to realize how very blessed I already am. I also acknowledge that it was God who got me here and not myself. I began to think through all the turns in life that could have gone the other way and yet by the sheer grace of God, here I am.

Again, for me at least, looking back how I got here seems to help me take on the next challenge so I can say “yes I can” because what I am really saying is “yes I am.” KT

Test to tell if someone is authentic and genuine

If you ever need to confirm if a person is authentic and genuine, just ask to meet with them at their home. Take one look in the spouse’s eyes and their children and you will know. If they have a dog, just watch the dog around that person and you will undoubtedly know.  If they have a cat,,,, it won’t tell you anything. Ha

See, you will be able to tell if the person is trustworthy and honest by the way their spouse and children act around them. If their children run up to the person and hug them, you probably have a good person. If they shy away or are inhibited, you should be aware.  If the spouse is a woman, one look at her face, tells you everything you need to know. She can’t hide it. You will be able to tell if she believes in her husband or not.

If they have a dog, it’s a slam dunk. A dog regardless of how it is trained, either feels comfortable around a person or not. It is their instinct, and it will override any training. A dog is an open book, and you will know if a person is who you think they are or not. See, a dog doesn’t have work, entertainment, and friends, they only have you. A dog forgives easy but never forgets how you treated them.  The actions of a dog mirror how they feel about their owner and a dog is the best judge of character you can find.

We could probably do away with much of the criminal court system we have today if we would just video the person on trail in a room with a bunch of dogs. Seriously, the way a person’s spouse, children and animals act around them will give you a good look into the soul of a person. I’m not saying I am a good person, but If you come to my house, I have one little fat dog that won’t even bark at you but will sit at your feet of he trusts you and another little runt (Yorkie) that will lick your face. KT

Routine, same ole, same ole

This is my 776th blog post. For the past several months, I have seen family members and friends deal with health issues, losses, and unexpected passing of a loved ones. Today I wanted to write something about this but just couldn’t put it into words. Life is precious and is a gift from God that we may not appreciate until something changes.

I went back and looked at the very first blog post I wrote in 2014 and it was about a normal routine day. It’s that day when there is nothing special, nothing planned, no excitement or variations, rather just a normal same ole, same ole day. That is the one we take for granted and may not truly appreciate it until you don’t have it anymore.

Like many things in life, we don’t want it until we can’t have it anymore.  Life and what you thought was going to happen can change in a moment of time. Its not until that change happens that we really understand we don’t have anywhere near as much control as we thought we did.

Tell those closest to you that you love them. Don’t hold back. If you have children, never let them leave your sight without telling them you love them. Hug your friends and tell them they are important. The bible has a passage in Ephesians that says, ‘never let the sun go down on your anger.” Think of all the people that never got the chance to apologize and make things right. I think if the Lord stood in the doorway today, he would tell us to fix it while we still can.

I am not saying a routine life should always be our goal. We all need some change, variation, and adjustment ever now and again. Sometimes we don’t know how blessed we are until an event or a conversation happens that changes everything. Therefore, take an inventory today of your blessings and yes, you may be changing diapers, washing clothes, making sales calls or just simply doing the same thing you did last week, but sometimes understanding how quick things can change helps us appreciate what we already have. KT

How to ruin a good day

There is an old saying that goes like this; “you can’t change the past and you can’t change the future, but you can ruin the present by worrying about both.”

There is difference between worry and anxiety. Worry resides in our mind and anxiety affects both mind and body. Worry is usually specific where anxiety is more general. Worry is about actual situations, anxiety is more, what-if thinking. Worry is usually more temporary where anxiety is longstanding. Worry doesn’t usually impair function, anxiety does. Last one – If worry persists, it can turn into anxiety.

Anxiety is like the old Lay’s Potato Chip commercial – “you can’t eat just one.” Anxiety feeds off worry and gets stronger each day you worry until one day you look up and you are gripped with a fear that can affect the way you live.

We can’t change past decisions because if we could, I would be a gazillionaire. We really (when you think about it) can’t change the future but we can have an impact on that future by the decisions we make today. Life is never carefree like the guy laying on some beach for the rest of his life, but we can choose today as the diving board toward a better future. KT