Life has many peaks and valleys. The peaks are the high points, and the valleys are the low points. The decisions we make in the peaks (high points) seem to be different than the ones we make in the valleys (low points.)
While not always possible, we should be more careful about the decisions we make in the valleys. When you are in the valley, your spirit, confidence, drive, and hope are less than perfect, and we tend to make quicker decisions in the low points. We make quicker decisions in hopes it will quickly change us from the valley back to the peaks, but more times than not, those decisions in the valleys can make things worse.
The best advice for valleys is to just keep walking until you see the next peak and be careful and thoughtful on the decisions you make in the valleys. If possible, save the important decisions of life when your spirit is uplifted and your confidence and hope are strong. KT
Gene Dickinson was my father and he passed away yesterday. I call him my father because that is who he was to me. Technically was my stepfather but my love for him and his love for me was that of a father. He married my mom in 1967 when I was nine years old, and my sister was twelve. He was a very dear man to me because I knew he always loved me as his own.
I will never forget the first time we were going somewhere together after he and my mom married, and he introduced me as his son. Not his stepson, but his son. I was never able to express to him what that simple introduction meant to a young boy. He gave me a sense of belonging that me and my sister needed, and we never doubted his love for us. I have many fond memories of time spent together with Gene that will stay with me for the rest of my life. My daughters referred to him as papa and he loved them just like they were his own, because they were.
After the divorce between my biological father and my mom, we as a three-person family were trying to put the pieces of our lives back together and find our new place in the world. Before the divorce we lived in Atlanta Georgia but after the divorce, my mom moved me and my sister to Memphis TN to be near her family. Looking back, my mom was such a rock in our lives but now realize that she was younger than my two daughters are today. As a father, it would terrify me if my daughters went through that life altering change.
Gene came into our lives in 1967 while my mom worked at the Rexall drug store in Memphis. Gene was the Coca Cola delivery man on that route, and they met and started dating. They were married in December of 1967 and he had a profound impact on our lives. I will be forever grateful that God put him in our life and helped my mom, my sister and me pick up the pieces on a new life. He always told me to never take life for granted and live it to the fullest. Having him, helped me do just that. KT
You can’t read one chapter of a book and expect to know the whole book. I read a lot and have 100’s of books at home and at our lake house and probably average reading two books a week. I can’t read one chapter and put the book down.
In life, there may be a chapter or two you wish you could delete but they are part of the book of your life. I was with a friend this week who needed a little love. He told me of his failures and how the memories of those pass failures seem to have prevented him from moving on. I told him about all my past business failures and how there was only one thing I was able to do with any success. Sell hotels. I have often wondered if those failures were simply the path, I had to take to get me where I am today. I intend to ask Jesus when I get to heaven.
The point is to not let a chapter or two determine the whole book of your life. Momentum in a football game is a lot like life. There are many changes in momentum during one football game, but the objective is to push through the valleys until you regain your purpose. There are many people who die having never gotten past a bad chapter or two in their life and just couldn’t seem to finish the book. In case you didn’t know it, Satan has his own YouTube channel of your greatest hits and the number one way he tries to influence our life is to play the old videos from our past. He waits every day for you to wake up so he can punch the play button on some old failure from your past.
One of the hardest things to do in life is forgive yourself. Doing so, could be one of the greatest things you could ever do for your future and your family’s future. A pig will find a mud hole and go back and wallow in the same mud every day. Its like he just can’t get enough of it. You are a child of the living God and he doesn’t want you to wallow in your past. The problem? He can’t make that decision for you. You must do it. KT
We all have seen videos, games, presentations with the play arrow in the middle of the screen to get started. If you are watching a YouTube about how to paint your house, go ahead a hit that play button. However, in the weightier things/ big decisions in life, we would all do well to remember the pause button exists for a reason. It lets you stop and think about it before proceeding.
As you think back over your life there are probably memories of times you wish you could go back and hit pause instead of play. There may have been a job decision, relationship decision, parenting decision, financial decision, health decision and the list could go on for pages. The point is, when faced with a decision that will affect your future and your family’s future, the pause button is your friend because it lets you think it through.
In my career I have hit the pause button many times and thankful I did. There are also many times in business when I proceeded to hit play only to find out later, I should have hit pause. We cannot go back and rewind and get a do-over. We must live with the decisions we made, but we can use that knowledge in future decisions. Many times, a short pause can often be the difference between a good decision and a bad one. KT
This is an old Texas term to describe a cowboy that has all the right gear and the right look but doesn’t own any cattle. It means the person is trying to be more than he is. He wants people to think he is a large rancher, when he’s not.
Today’s term that means the same thing is, fake it till you make it. Same meaning just different words. We all have known people like this who need to put on an image that is different than who they really are. One of the most refreshing things is when you meet a person who is real and not trying to be someone they’re not. There is a certain ease about that person, and they seem much more engaging, and the conversation is much more free flowing. They are who they are.
If you could choose to me anyone, why not choose to be you. Everyone of us was created by design and for a purpose and everyone of us has different talents and gifts. God didn’t make you to be like someone else. He made you to be you because there is only one person in the world exactly like you, you
In the post COVID world, there seems to be a rise in identity crises for many people. They quote the sound bites they hear from news and social media thinking those words will make them into someone else. When God created each of us, he put a “ding ding” meter in us to discern the real intentions of other people. We all have it. When you try to be someone you are not, the other person’s meter quietly goes ding ding, and they can see through it. Be yourself. You are unique in many ways but the way to do your best in life and fulfill what God intended for you, it is be you. Dress like you, speak like you and act like you and it will amaze you how other people respond to you. They will see you for who you really are. You. KT