We watched a Hallmark Christmas movie last night that stirred something inside me. The movie is new, and it was about this middle-aged father/husband who was still searching for significance in his life, family, and career. I know this might sound a little hokey, but stay with me.
He was frustrated with the path his life had taken and couldn’t seem to find his path forward. He met a Santa Clause (I know,,, eye roll) and told the Santa that he wished he would have made a different decision 20 years ago because if he had, he would have everything he wanted today. Santa asks, “are you sure you want this?” the guy says, “absolutely” and the Santa said ok.
He wakes up from a dream and he has everything he wanted. Great house, great business, money, prestige, fame etc. He was so happy until he started trying to find his family. The Santa appears and the guys ask Santa where his family was, and the Santa tells him he made that different decision and therefore didn’t have his family. He went on to tell the guy he had until Christmas Eve to find the meaning and change back to his life as he knew it. You know how it ends.
The point is this. Many times, we don’t want what we already have until we don’t have it anymore. We don’t know what hangs in the balance of every decision we make and the path that decision puts us on. It is nice to watch a little holiday movie that reminds us of what we really want and what is really important in our lives. KT
PS the movie is called -A kiss before Christmas. The main actor is James Denton.
I was speaking with a friend recently about this subject about which was the greatest contributing factor to who we ultimately become as adults. I told him that I had a biological father and stepfather. My biological father was the DNA, but it was my stepfather that was the influence in my life. I went to say that in my opinion that it was the influencer that molds who we become, not the DNA donor.
I told him who my father was and the kind of man he was and that I never wanted to be like him. Yes, I had his DNA, but I have a far greater example of what a real father was in my stepfather. I had a decision to make in my teens, did I want to be like my father or my stepfather. I chose my stepfather. Additionally, I had the example and influence of my father in-law that also played a role in who I became. I told my friend that it was the better influences (stepfather and father in-law) that I chose to emulate. Acts of my father several years before his death, proved that I had made the right choice in not following his lead.
So, I tell you today with some strong conviction that it is the people you associate with and the ones that you let influence your life that have the far greater impact on who you become. I heard a speaker some years ago say that the person we will all be in five years is largely based on the books we read and the people we associate with. Life is never that simple and pure, but I believe the speaker was correct to a point. Be careful who you let into your heart and who you let influence your life. It could be one of the most profound decisions you will ever make. KT
I did something today I need to do a lot more often. I was outside and as I was leaving for work, I paused and stood still and and gave a word of gratitude to God for allowing me to be so blessed. I let the images of our life sweep over me. In those images I saw my wife, daughters, son in-laws, grandchildren, homes, health, and joy. It almost bought tears to my eyes when I really stopped and realized the life God has given me.
I have no doubt there are many people who are unable to do this, but this one man could. It was amazing how that brief reflection moment effected how I approached work today. Hopefully if you are reading this blog, you also have much to be thankful for and many reasons to choose joy in your life. Take a moment and go through your blessings and just maybe you will come away with the same gratitude as I felt this morning. KT
A couple weeks ago I decided to paint the garage at our lake house. As most men usually do, we anticipate how difficult the job will be and how long it would take. I missed both very badly.
The ceiling was the old popcorn sprayed texture so I thought I would start with the ceiling and work my way down to the trim, walls and finally the floor. I bought one of those roller pumps that keep the flow of paint to the roller for a quicker job. It liked to have killed me, but it took three hours or so to get the ceiling trimmed out and painted. I was pleased with how it looked so I then started trimming in the doors, windows, baseboards etc.
The person at Home Depot said I needed to do a base coat before the actual paint so that was like painted everything twice, but I said ok. Before I could get the base coat trimmed out, the ceiling started to dry and peel in flakes. I was like well I will touch up that little spot but no biggie. Well, before long I had 20 peel spots the size of your hand and I was like, “you’ve got to be kidding me.” I found out you can’t paint over popcorn and you especially can’t roll paint over it because it will come loose which is exactly what happened.
Long story short it took me three days to paint that silly garage and I couldn’t hardly walk for the next day. I still must have some experts come in and redo the ceiling. Ha. My point is this, sometimes projects take less time than expected but more times than not, the job can get more complicated and involved the further into the project you go.
It’s kind of like that with relationships. jobs, friendships, finances etc. Sometimes it just takes longer than you expect but if you stay at it, your chances of fixing the issue, repairing the damage, or competing the job go up dramatically. KT
Years ago, Jack Nicklaus was being interviewed and the reporter asked what he thought about Tiger Woods. Jack said. “he has what I had, but a lot more of it.”
Jack Nicklaus is arguably the best golfer to ever lace up a pair of cleats and for him to say that about a young golfer named Tiger Woods, means that Jack really saw something special in Tiger. Every generation has its own standouts, but Jack competed against some of Golf’s best like Arnold Palmer, Tom Watson, Lee Trevino, Gary Player, Billy Casper etc. Outside my office I have three consecutive pictures of Jack hitting out of a sand trap as he went on to win his sixth green jacket at the 1986 Masters
I have been a hotel broker for over three decades and worked with many, if not most, of the best hotel brokers. This new generation coming behind us is so much smarter and well educated than we were. They have so many tools available to them it is incredible, and they have the talent to far surpass what my contemporaries and I were able to achieve.
One would think that with all the technology we have today that hotel sales would increase and would be easier. That is not the case. When I was getting stated, there was no internet, emails, texts, websites etc. and if you did have a mobile phone, it was hard mounted in your car and cost about 10 dollars every time you wanted to make a call. Back then, you had to go see people if you wanted to do any business. Today, you just set up a zoom call and off you go.
My point is that every generation seems to be smarter than the previous one but like with Jack and Tiger, you still must have the will to win and the grace to make it happen. You still must work hard and have honestly, wisdom and know how to relate to people. Without these attributes, it doesn’t matter how much technology you have. When I see these young brokers coming up, I see like Jack did, they have what I had, but a lot more of it. KT