Category Archives: Life

Wakeboarding

Learning to wakeboard behind a ski boat is a lot like life. Hard to get up, quick to fall down and painful when you make a misjudgment on your skill level.

We have a lake house on Lake Lanier in Georgia just north of Atlanta. As with most lake houses we have a ski boat, Sea-Doo’s and all the water toys.

We have skied for years but back in 2005 we decided to learn wakeboarding. A wakeboard is basically a short fat ski that you stand sideways on. Think of snowboarding and wakeboarding is basically the same thing except on water instead of snow.

I remember we took a trip to Orlando in spring of 2005 to take a wakeboarding class with an instructor. We were all in the boat and when it came my turn I put on the wakeboard and jumped into the water. When you ride a wakeboard you are standing sideways like you have seen people do on a surf board.

So here I am, in the water ready to be pulled on a wakeboard by the boat. The boat takes off, I get up on the board and start riding on the water and having a great time. I am a left foot forward skier so on a wakeboard I am sideways with my left side toward the boat. Get the picture?

So about half way on my ride I look down and think, why don’t I swivel the board around to right foot forward. Sounds easy right? So I start to pivot the board from left to right and I learned a very big lesson in the process. When you wakeboard you are strapped in boots that are attached to the board so your feet don’t just slide out. You have to unbuckle to get out of the boots. Back to the story, so I decide to pivot on the board from left to right and the front of the board dipped in the water and I splashed face first in the water. Now it is not just face first, it is face first at the same speed the boat is going. When I fell, the boat was going about 24 miles per hour and therefore my face hit the water at 24 miles per hour. Now 24 mph may not sound fast but if you run your face into a wall at 24 mph it is going to hurt. Ha. I remember I actually saw a few stars when I realized what had happened.

So why this story? Life is like wakeboarding because you need to look at the details before you make a move. Had I given any level of thought on the wakeboard to what could have gone wrong, I would have seen that big fat font lip on the board and said to myself, I need to keep that out of the water because it will hurt. I didn’t do that and it did hurt.

I find that the best wisdom in life decisions is to think ahead two or three steps and ask yourself, if it doesn’t work out like I plan, will we still be ok? Pretty simple right? If you ask yourself that question and the worst result is still ok, then it is probably alright to go ahead. If the worst result could be devastating if your plan fails, then you probably should give the decision a lot of thought. So tonight in the shower just bust your face against the wall at 24 mph and you will know what it is like to make a misjudgment. Ha. KT

The still moments

It is in the still moments when you hear from God. The terms being still, being quiet, being calm, and being silent are in the bible 35 times and divided equally between the Old Testament and the New Testament. This means that the bible has talked about this presence of calm and peace sense the beginning of time.

Why is this important? It is because God will not compete with the phone, TV, email, internet, news or any other distraction. He wants to be the center of your quiet time and the center of that moment. God will not shout over the noise of your life. I find that I hear from God when I am still and quiet and I choose him.

I remember back in the early 90’s when we were so in debt and I had two young daughters, a beautiful wife and more debt than I could pay. One particular day I decided to get alone and stop all the noise so I could hear from God. This can be done in a bedroom with the door closed, a closet, and garage or in a car. I chose to go to Vogel State Park for the night. I remember when I got there I took out a yellow writing pad, bowed my head and asked God to speak to me and give me wisdom and direction to get out of debt.

A funny thing happened when I started to write on that yellow pad. I started to write any thoughts that came to my mind and it was as if God was writing through me. I don’t mean some hocus pocus Casper the ghost moment. It was a God moment. I just remember I was writing down a plan for how to get out of debt and many of those thoughts were new to me. I remember at the time thinking that this was just me and my emotions, but I wrote page after page on that yellow pad. When I finished I realized that most of what I had written was giving me direction in my life. That trip and that night and that word from God was one of the most important events in my personal, professional and Christian life.

I was looking through some old stuff not long ago and I came across that yellow pad and the words written on it. I begin to read what was written and my mind raced back to that evening at Vogel State Park and I can tell you that those words written some 20+ years ago still stirred my heart and made my eyes wet with the power and the memory of that quiet time with God.

Find a moment to be alone, still and quiet. Ask God if you are being the man or woman you should be, and if not, ask him for his direction and wisdom on how to become what he wants you to be. My suggestion is to get a writing pad and put the date at the top and where you are at that moment and really began to write out your needs, hopes, desires and the prayers for your life. Years from now when you look back on those words, I trust they will mean as much to you as mine meant to me. KT

Wanting what you don’t have

How about a little lesson in Country Music. Ha

There is a song by Jake Owens called “What we ain’t got” and it has a very good meaning. The song is about people always wanting something more than they current have and never being satisfied. A bigger house and a faster car and we all want what we ain’t got. The striving for “things” we see other people have. One section of lyrics near the end of the song is particularly poignant when it says “I wanted the whole world until my world stopped. Now all I want is what I had.”

Things happen and the life as we know it can change with a phone call or a doctor visit. I trust everyone reading this blog will all live very long, very healthy and very prosperous lives but we all know someone that got a call one day and their world as they knew changed.

The point is to live life now and to not put off what you want to do.

Another song is by Tim McGraw titled “live like you were dying.” The song is about a man talking to his friend in his early 40’s about a bad diagnosis he received from his doctor. The man asked the friend what he did after the doctor told him he was dying. He expected the friend to tell him he went home and cried and felt sorry for himself. To his surprise, the friend told him he went “sky diving, rocky mountain climbing, rode 2.7 seconds on a bull named Fu Manchu.” He also told the man that he gave forgiveness he had been denying, loved deeper, spoke sweeter and became the husband he was supposed to be. His friend told him, someday I hope you get the chance to live like you were dying. Wow

I know these are country songs that didn’t come from the bible but we all know that these words carry meaning for us all. Hopefully everyone reading this blog is in good health and living their dreams in life but sometimes making a decision to change our life comes only after we take an inventory of really how blessed we are now. Live the life you have today, hug your family and don’t hold back telling them how much you love them.

The ending of Tim McGraw’s song said it well. “Someday I hope you get the chance to live like you were dying.” What a good meaning and a good lesson for us all. Be Safe. KT

Keeping your balance

In life, keeping your balance is a hard thing to do. We can take a few lessons on the subject from cycling.

The only way to keep your balance on a bike is to move forward. Once you stop you are no longer balancing. I am a very amateur cyclist and the sport both scares me and excites me. I have all the cycling garb that makes me look like I know what I am doing until we start riding and then the real truth is displayed.

One of the things I needed to do when I started riding was to get the petal clips on my shoes. Instead of the normal bike petal there is a round shaft with a clip on it. The other end of the clip is on the bottom of your shoes. Having your shoes clipped in helps you to pull up on the petal as well as push down thereby helping you to increase your cycling strength.

The only way you can get out of the clips is to pivot your ankles and it releases your shoes. I found out the hard way what happens when you pull up to a stop and you don’t unclip your shoes. You basically just fall over to the ground because your shoes are fixed to the bike. I remember very vividly the first time I rode with a group with the petal clips. I looked like a total goob because our group pulled up to a stop sign and I forgot to unclip. When I stopped, I expected to just put my feet down like you would normally do on a bike but I forgot I was clipped in. All 200 lbs. of me fell sideways to the ground. Let me tell you, it was embarrassing and very painful. Ha Thank goodness there was not another bike beside me or it could have been bad. Want to know what the second most embarrassing thing I did was? I did the same thing again on the same group ride about 15 minutes later. When I picked myself up that second time, I had a PHD degree on what I would not do again. Ha

When you clip in on a cycle, you had better be moving forward. Just like in life, you need to be moving forward in order to keep your balance. KT

When we become immune to tragedy

I was reading and listening to the news last night and looked at all the tragedy all over the world. I had a very humbling thought. The thought was, how we become so immune to the difficulties, hurt and pain of other people. Yesterday the news covered the train crash in Philly, 50 people dying when a banquet hall was attacked by bad guys, the earthquake in Nepal etc. The article of Tom Brady being suspended for 4 games for letting the air out of the footballs was right beside the articles on tragedy.

It would be my guess that more people read the Tom Brady article than the other ones and got up and got some ice cream and started watching TV. We see death so often we have become accustom to it and it doesn’t have the effect it used to.

It important for us to never become insulated and immune to human tragedy. Each of those people that died this week likely left behind family members, spouses, children, mothers and dads. Pray for our world because it is hurting. Hug you family tonight and tell them you love them and don’t put off letting those around you know that you love them. Tell your kids every day even if they think they are too big hear it. Grab them, hug them and kiss them. Even if they “act” like it doesn’t matter, trust me, they will remember it long after you have passed on. Seize today because you don’t know what tomorrow holds but you do know who holds tomorrow. KT