Category Archives: Life

Getting to the question

In sales, one of the most difficult things for sales people to do is get to the question.

If you are a pastor, insurance salesman, under-writer, corporate executive, home builder or you work at Walmart, there is question that must be asked. The question is “how can I help you?” which really means “do you want to buy it?”

We sell hotels and every transaction happens because after all the presentations are done, someone asked “how can I help you?”

When I think of this, I think of when I was playing football in High School. We were playing Griffin High school at their home stadium and the stands were full and people were cheering. They had this little tailback named Frunie Mathews and he was hands down, the fastest running back we had played against. 19 seconds before the half, we punted to Griffin and Frunie got the ball. He didn’t score but we couldn’t catch him either. He just ran and juked all over the field and refused to be brought down. The 19 seconds on the clock ran out and he was still running (as I remember) for what seemed like a good minute or two. He finally slipped down and was so tried he just stayed down. He didn’t score but it was not because of our tremendous defense. He just got tired and fell.

I think of this story in terms of selling and many people in all walks of life can get lost talking about an issue and never bring it to a point. There is always a point you need to make and if you don’t ever get there, it is like the clock just runs out and no one wins.

I had this salesman some years ago and he was one of the best educated, professional and articulate salesman I had ever met. The problem was he could never get to the question. Sure, he impressed everyone with his knowledge but he never made the sale. At some point in every sales pitch you must ask the buyer if they want to buy it. If you are a pastor, trust me, you are a salesman whether you think you are or not and the reality is, we are all salespeople regardless of what it is we do. We are selling ourselves, our opinions, our thoughts and our influence.

So, the next time you are making a sales pitch or leading a group or doing a presentation, remember Frunie Mathews and be sure to get to the point and ask the question. KT

You can’t stop life’s clock, but you can rewind it

Regardless of our age, we all seem to notice how fast the years get by. In my life, the last 10-12 years have slipped by so quickly it is a little scary.

The clock of life moves forward and there is no way to slow it down or make it pause. Every minute of every day is less time you have to be who you were meant to be. Even though we can’t stop the clock of life and it may sound funny, but we can rewind it for the next phase of our life. The term rewind means to renew the strength and get ready for the next time period

That is what we need to be doing in our life. Renewing our strength and getting ready for the next time period. I have seen many people remain stuck in the past while refusing to embrace the future. They play defense instead of offense. Life is much more fun on offense because you get to set the plays and the strategy. I have a friend of mine who lost his whole hotel company with about 40 hotels. Lost it all. I watched him rewind his clock and come back from that financial failure with a better company than the one he lost. Sure it takes mental fortitude and will power, but that is the difference between defense and offense.

Look at your life today. Are you just reacting to circumstances or are you moving forward with a plan. Everyone has the choice to let life’s clock just wind down or to reset your mind to the next phase of life. I like the idea of embracing age and the life cycles because it is really the only choice I have. I cannot go back and relive my 30’s or 40’s or even my 50’s. I am where I am and I cannot not change that. The only choice I have is to change my outlook.

Change your outlook because it makes life so much more fun. KT

Life’s greatest luxury

The greatest luxury in life, is time.

I wished I was smart enough to have come up with this statement but I am not. Nonetheless, I have heard it many times and for the past 7 years I have carried this quote in my business briefcase in a place that I look at it every day.

Is it true? Let’s test it out. If you are young, healthy and rich you may think the next car or the next vacation is the definition of luxury. If are old enough to get past the superficial definition of luxury, you realize that time is simply the most sought after luxury this world offers. If you have had a health scare or a bad diagnosis or lost hope in your life, you know that time is the greatest luxury this life has to offer or when you are looking at your grandchildren and you realize that most likely, you may have less time in front of you than you do behind you, time becomes the most important thing. Lastly, if you are on the one yard line of life looking into entirety, trust me, you are not thinking about the next luxury car you are going to buy or what your stock portfolio is worth. You are only thinking about time.

The other day I was leaving for work and as usual I was thinking about all I had to do and as I backed out of the garage I had the news channel on. It happened in a wink of an eye and I looked out at the world around me and felt God nudge me to turn off the radio and be in that moment. I turned everything off and said, ok God, show me. I drove very slowly through our neighborhood and looked at the grass, trees, birds, and flowers and realized the beauty and the peace of that moment. I paused before I got into traffic and said a quiet thank you to God for reminding me that the moments around us is where the beauty of life is.

It is like when your daughter or son comes to you for advice knowing full well, you would move mountains for them if needed or the total focus on your granddaughter’s eyes and words as she is telling you about her day and she says, I love you papa. That my friends, is the essence of the most important and most powerful luxury this life has to offer.

So, take a moment today to look around you and to look at your loved ones and whisper a prayer of thanks to God for letting you be in that moment and to see that level of pure luxury. KT

Testing a man’s character

Abraham Lincoln made the following quote; nearly all men can stand adversity, but if you want to test a man’s character, give him power.

This statement is very insightful and so very true. We all know people in our personal lives that were given a new title or new position and they allowed it to change them. It is almost comical but it happens often in churches. A person is asked to serve as a committee chairman and the next thing you know, he starts acting like he is the state Governor. Ha. Abraham Lincoln was right on point when he said that one of the greatest tests of a person’s character is how they handle leadership.

Some years ago, one the congressmen from Georgia was a personal friend of mine. His name was Mack Collins. I talked with Mack one day and told him I wanted to come to Washington and hang out with him for a day. We set it up and I show up at the Congressional office buildings in Washington and tell them I was there to meet with Mack Collins. After I had a prostate exam (ha) they allowed in the building. As I was walking to Mack’s office I passed the congressional offices for many states and I was struck with the feeling of power that oozed from every hallway. Mack was the real deal who didn’t let a title or position change who he was. When he left congress, he was the same man as when he began. Not everyone I met that day could say that.

Over the years in Georgia, we have elected some dozes for congress. I won’t name names, but several served some jail time for illegal activity, embezzlement and various other sundry infractions. Why? They just could not handle being given authority. Two of which I now speak of, were there that day and the impression you instantly got being around them was that they were arrogant, pompous and had let the power of an elected office cloud who they were. They both failed in their reelection campaigns and both were investigated by the authorities.

I remember Mack took me into meetings at the capital and I had the opportunity to watch and listen from the sidelines. It is the only place I have ever heard that much money being talked about and it was easy to see how that could change someone. As with every organization from a church to a gym, there are people who didn’t let leadership change who they were and then there are ones that just couldn’t handle a position of authority.

I remember before I left, I was in Mack’s private office and he had a plaque on his desk that read “Be Real.” That is a perfect Image to all of us to remember. Just be who we are. Even in the bible, God warned people to respect and honor the position he had given them. Many times they didn’t listen and he had to replace them with someone else who would still listen and not get lost in a position of power or authority.

So I suppose Mack Collins’s little desk plaque is good instruction for us to remember. Be Real. KT

Two generations

That is generally how long you have to teach your family. It may be sad to say but in real life, your influence and impact usually extends for two generations. Your children and your grandchildren. Beyond that, it is unlikely your great grandchildren will be old enough to understand, interact with and be influenced by you. Kind of humbling isn’t it?

The difference maker is your written words that will remain after the lord calls you home. Take me for instance. At the age I am now, I would dearly love to have a diary, letters or life advice from my great grandparents and great great grandparents. How cool would it be to read my families words from the 1800’s about what life was like and the decisions they made and the life they lived. I have intimate knowledge of my parents and grandparents (two generations) but I was not old enough to be influenced by their parents. Hence the blog topic.

There are many people that never get to live out a full life and do not get the chance to love, lead and make an impression on their children and grandchildren. So if you have this opportunity, do not squander the time and miss the moments because I am told, that these become the most precious possessions when you get late in life.

Most people do not leave a legacy and written words for generations that come behind them and therefore beyond two generations, it is usually a gravestone that tells a short story outlined in the craved granite.

Tell them in writing what you believe and why and tell them about your life in 2017 and what the world is like now. In a hundred years these words will be valuable to your future family. KT