Category Archives: Life

Strange stress triggers

Sometimes there are physical things in our lives that we need to get rid of. I call these stress triggers. It could be something you keep putting up with as simple as an old outfit hanging in your closet or a lawn mower that doesn’t run, old car, boat, piece of furniture, trailer etc. Sometimes there are physical things we pass every day that cause us a little hitch in our gitty-up. I know this sounds strange, hence the title of the blog.

Very recently I have come to realize that I have one of these things in my life. It is something I see every day and every day that I look at it, I dislike it more than I did the day before.  Over the past week I was thinking about this item and realized that I need to get rid of it and need it out of my view and out of my life. Even if I must give it away. I simply need it to leave the premises.

I say, if it bothers you, clean it out and get rid of it. Home is supposed to be a place you enjoy coming to and relax. Not a place that constantly reminds you of things you need to do or of a poor decision you made when you bought that used set of tires you don’t need.  KT

Storms of life

I was watching the news today of this hurricane that is hitting the Gulf Coast of FL and the damage it is current causing. The weather service has been tracking this storm for the better of two weeks and knew with some level of certainty several days ago when it was going to hit, where it was going hit and what storm category would most likely be when it reached landfall.

In our personal lives, it would be great to have an outside source see the storm coming and give us time to get ready. Yes, that would be great but what we usually do is to ignore the signs and then act surprised when the storm hits.

I used to teach an adult couples Sunday school class for many years and we often discussed the idea of getting ahead of the storm instead of waiting for it to damage us. Storms can come in many forms from health, finances, relationships, employment etc. I have heard people say many times that they believed God let them get to the bottom before he helped so they could learn a lesson. That is the furthest thing from the truth. I believe he comes when you call him. I also believe that when you see the storm coming is when you run to God early for help. Not waiting until the storm has destroyed everything before calling on him.

So, like the hurricane, when you see a storm of life coming, get out ahead of it and call on God early and don’t wait till it hits. I believe if we could ask God what he most wants from us in prayer, he would say three words. Honesty, often and early. KT

Finishing what you start

Have you ever driven by someone’s house and there are half finished projects all over the yard? The house is half painted, the porch is half fixed, the lawn mower is broken down in the middle of the front yard, weeds all in the flower beds etc. You get the idea. Now when you see this, just imagine what the inside of the house looks like? Ha

There are some people that just like things that way and good for them. I had this guy who worked for us year ago as a broker and he never used his file cabinets. His files were all in stacks on his desk, His filing system was to put the stack in order so that the most recent items were on top and the oldest was on the bottom. I used to love to go into his office and act like I needed something just to watch him dig into the stack and find it. His system worked faster than mine did. ha

I guess what I am saying is, if it is your style, keep doing it but if it is because you are confused in life and finishing a project is too much for you, you might want to get the issue addressed. Not every time, but more often than not, the way a person lives is an insight to who they are. Many times, if the areas of a person’s life are jumbled it is a pretty good guess that other areas of their life are jumbled.

I had this guy one time who wanted to talk with me about all the problems he was having financially, emotionally, and career wise. As he was talking I said a quite prayer that the lord would give me the wisdom to help this man. When he stopped talking I asked him to describe to me what his garage, closet and dresser looks like. He said, what difference does that make? I pushed him to tell me what those three areas of his house looked like. To no surprise his closet was jumbled, his dresser top was covered with junk from years ago and he couldn’t even get his car into his garage. I told him to take a day off and go home and clean those areas in his house and by the time he got finished, I felt he would have a different outlook on his life.

He called me a few days later and told me how much clearer he was thinking and how his self-esteem was better than the day in my office. Sometimes (not every time) we just need to clean out the clutter in our life to clear our mind so we can start over and think fresh. KT

The little details

In business, life, friendship and finances, it is the little things that really make the difference. This is something I have had to work through my whole life. I love the idea phase but it is the details that bog me down. Case in point, I have not balanced my personal checkbook in over 20 years. Ha. I would not recommend this to anyone but I basically go on-line and keep up with the checks that clear and the current balance, but as far as balancing it, it doesn’t happen.

At work, our staff will tell you that I am the worst writer in the company. They will also probably tell you I am ugly too. Ha. If I didn’t have someone to write the books on the properties we sell, I probably would be out of business. The funny thing is that I know what the finished product should look like but I just don’t know how to get it there. I fully understand imaging and what the market needs to see but it is the details where I need the help.

Why am I telling you this? It is about understanding and accepting what you are good at and seeking help in the areas where you are lacking. In my line of work, I hear sellers say from time to time that they will just sell their hotel on their own. My usual response to them is, “even if you don’t hire us, hire someone to represent you. The worst thing you can do to the value of your hotel is handle the marketing yourself.” There are just some things you need to hire an outside party to do. It is like being your own lawyer at a trial. Dumb idea.

It is also appreciating the people that help you get to where you need to go. Behind every successful company is a group of detailed oriented people whose sole focus is on the little things. It is often said of Army Generals that when they receive orders for battle, the first thing they think about is logistics. See, there would never be a battle if you can’t get the troops in place. Henry Ford once walked into his engine team and told them he wanted them to design a V8 engine. After the team told him why the idea was impossible, he paused a minute and said, ok I will just fire all of you and hire me someone who can design a V8 engine. Several months later the same team designed a V8 engine.

So, in summary, very few people have the ideas and the detailed oriented talent to pull it off. Most often, people have one or the other. Understand which one you are and embrace it and surround yourself with people that can help you. This applies to business, finances, life and event yard work. KT

Dealing with a hot head

Over the past 30 years I have dealt with some clients that you simply cannot make happy. There is nothing you can do to satisfy them. In my humble opinion, these same people probably go to sleep each night alone and their children never come to see them. In fact, they most likely do not have personal relationships because of the stress, strife and anxiety they create everywhere they go. The challenge in these type situations is to remain professional and objective and still treat them with respect and kindness.

I love Psalms 23 because near the end of the passage, it says that goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life. That is what I am talking about. Ha

This client hired us for a rush job and we performed far beyond any market level expectation and he still wasn’t happy. Within eight weeks, we showed his property more than any asset I have ever been involved with and brought in a stack of offers, many of which were well in excess of the target pricing, and he still wasn’t happy. He helped drive the point home that there are just some people you cannot please.

It also drove home another little factoid that I have known and used in my profession for many years. How an engagement starts is how it will be throughout the whole process. Case in point, if the client argues excessively over the listing agreement, it should tell you how he will be at contract and closing. Also, how he responds to the materials, offering memorandums and marketing approach should tell you how he will micromanage every little thing. These type people just have to be the smartest person in any conversation and they just have to be the lead dog.

In the past, each time I encounter this type individual, I just pass on the engagement. See, there are some things more important in life. Notwithstanding that these type engagements most usually fail because of personality conflict, many times it is best to just walk away.

I remember one such client years ago that we were selling a resort property for and we had a conference call with a REIT (publicly traded company) that owned 200 such assets. On the call, I will never forget the seller asking the REIT in a non-friendly tone, “have you ever bought a hotel?” Well,,,,, I knew when the call was over that deal was dead and it is a shame because that same owner still has the hotel today and it has lost half of its property value. All because of his attitude.

So, in life, business, friendships, church and almost any other personal interaction, when you recognize that one of the people involved is a hot head, just walk away as soon as you can. In life, how you respond and your attitude will almost always be more important that the subject you are dealing with. KT