Category Archives: Family

Love you papa

It’s easy to get a little overwhelmed working through this COVID-19 situation. Yesterday, I was feeling a little put out by all the changes to our business and personal lives. We are in week seven of work-from-home, so I was a bit anxious about what the balance of 2020 looks like.

Yesterday, I went home for lunch and while I was gone, my two oldest granddaughters had stopped by the offices. With the help of a label maker, my middle granddaughter (Darby) made a stick-on label that simply said, “love you papa” and stuck it to my keyboard. I sat down at my desk after lunch and saw that little sticker and it made me stop in my tracks. All the tension and anxiety surrounding our business and lives just melted away. It choked me up a little when I realized that the most important gifts in my life are my family and they are all ok. Its amazing how a little gesture like a stick-on label can become so valuable. It will remain in that place on my keyboard until it wears off, but the memory of it never will. KT

George Muller, the book from 1873

In 1988, we bought four restaurants and I made the worst financial stumble of my life. By 1990 we were so badly in debt I really could not see my way out of the financial disaster I had created. Our financial situation had literally brought us to the point of filing for bankruptcy. We ultimately choose not to but were at the point where that looked like the only option.

As a side note- If anyone ever wants to open their own restaurant, I have three words of advice: “Don’t do it.”

It was Thanksgiving that year, and we were at my mom and dad’s house in Virginia for the holiday weekend. At the time my mom was working for the Fredericksburg Bible Institute in Fredericksburg, Virginia and there was an elderly gentleman that had passed away and left his book collection to the Bible Institute. My mom was looking through the collection and saw a very old book by George Muller printed in the 1873. She wanted to look at the book a little closer and happened to bring it home that weekend we were there.

Listen to me here. God always has a plan for your life if you will just ask him and then trust him.

So, we were in Virginia with my parents for that Thanksgiving weekend, and Mom shows me this old book she brought home. I had never heard of George Muller and knew nothing about his life, but I opened that book and was just going to skim a few pages and look it over. When I started reading, I understood the book was his story and his daily and sometimes weekly memoirs. George Muller had felt led by God to start a children’s home in Bristol England for the growing population of homeless children. As he tells his story, he didn’t want to do it and in fact, he told God he wasn’t going to do it. Finally, God got through to him and he agreed to do it with one stipulation.

Imagine right here, having a prayer life so strong that it is like having a dialogue or conversation with God. That is the way it was with George Muller.

The stipulation was that he would do his part if God provided all the resources and expenses for the children’s home. Think of the audacity George Muller had to actually call God on his promise and put God to the test. He told God he would never borrow money for the children’s home and never put any amount on credit. He told God he would literally trust him to provide every dollar because he never wanted to have any individual or banks get the credit instead of God. The book was his periodic diary of how much money they had and what they needed for that day or that week to survive. It gave almost a daily detail of how much money he called on God to provide down to the dollars and cents. Without fail, God did his part in George’s life. By the time George Muller died, he had founded many children’s homes that looked like college campuses that were completely paid for. The homes served as an example to a country ravished by poverty of what God could do though one man.

The book literally changed my life.

I went back home and began to imitate what George did; I wrote a daily diary of the debts, payments due, and how much money I needed for that day, that week or that month. My deal with God was that I would tithe every dollar he allowed me to make, and I would always point to him as the source and the reason how we got out of debt and salvaged our financial life. Long story short, at about that time, I had begun to sell hotels and we did not file for bankruptcy, but rather we chose to pay all the money back. I met with all the creditors and told them my plan; it took us eight years, but we paid it all back. God saved us from financial disaster.

Every situation is different, and every cause is different but in my life at that moment, it was what I believed God wanted me to do.

Many years have passed since this period in my life, but even today, I can pick up that diary I wrote during that period and I cannot read it without crying because it is so raw, it takes me right back to those moments when I didn’t know how we would survive. When I read it, the emotions rise within me, and I know it was God that did it all.

Mom got the Bible Institute to sell her that book and she gave it to me a couple years later. I still have that book today in a very safe place. Should our home ever catch fire, after all the ones I love are safely out of the house, I will be going back into the house to get that book. KT

The love of my life

Today is my anniversary to my beautiful wife, Elaine. 42 years! It seems like I should only be 42 years old.

She is literally the sweetest, most compassionate and most caring person I know. In Proverbs 31:10-31 the bible lays out what a virtuous wife is, and Elaine is all of that.

The passage starts with, “Her worth is far above rubies and the heart of her husband safely trusts her. She does him good and not evil all the days of her life.” Verse 20, “she extends her hand to the poor and reaches out her hands to the needy.” Verse 26, “she opens her mouth with wisdom and on her tongue is the law of kindness.” This is who I married 42 years ago.

We met in high school history class in the 11th grade and she used to read off my test papers because I was so smart. Maybe,,,, I got that backwards. Ha. By Christmas of that year we started dating and have been together ever since. She is the best wife, mother, partner, confidant, love, counselor and advisor any man anywhere could ever have. She is also my very dearest friend and has stood by me when it might have looked like I didn’t know what I was doing. She trusted me and loved me through it all.

Many times, in life people don’t really understand what they have until they lose it. Fortunately, I knew from the beginning what a treasure I had.

One funny story. The first time I went to her house was on a Sunday evening. I didn’t call ahead and tell her I was coming because I thought she might turn me down. Being the salesman I am, I just went and surprised her. Oh boy, it was a surprise all right. I show up and met her dad (Max) and he tells me she should be home from church shortly. Well, she comes in the door with her brother Wayne who is one year younger but looks like he is the same age. I didn’t know he was her brother and here I am at a girl’s house and she walks in with her boyfriend.  I was about to make a quick exit until she told me he was her brother and then she kissed me in the driveway. ha

So today the love of my life and I cerebrate 42 years of marriage and I am the luckiest man alive. KT

Life Dreams

Dreams are sometimes a funny thing. They can happen when you least expect it.

Type A people like to plan every detail of their life and set weekly, monthly and yearly goals. They want to be in full control of their future. The problem is no one has ever been able to control their future and events in their life. Life happens and we deal with it as it comes.

The life you have dreamed of and hoped for doesn’t come on our schedule or when we think it should. Many people never get to live their dream but there are also many people who do. The funny thing is, it can happen when you least expect it and it can come in the form you never envisioned. We as humans think in the vernacular but God acts in the unexpected.

The bible says in proverbs 16:9, “The heart of man plans his way, but the Lord established his steps.” In many of my blogs I refer to being on the right road of life. When you are on that road there may be times when you can’t see a gas station or an restaurants and it may look bleak but it is in those periods you just need to know in your heart that you are on the path (road) God wants you on. Dreams are something like driving on a road. You might be slugging uphill thinking; will this ever change, and then you look up and see the destination. The city you were dreaming of.

You can’t plan it, schedule it or force it to come but every now and then, when you least expect it, your dream shows up. KT

Three greatest words

Regardless of age, gender, race or nationality, the three greatest words in any language is, I love you. Probably the second three greatest words in any language is, I forgive you. When our savior died on the cross, he said, I love you and I forgive you.

When my dad died, the last act of his life was to tell his four children that he did not love them. It wasn’t his words that told us that, rather his secret last will and testament in which he names us all and told us that we had no part in his inheritance. What kind of a father does that? The answer sadly enough, was he was never told enough in his own life that he was loved.

The words, I love you, transcends to the soul of a person. It speaks of safety, security, belonging and a knowing of who you are. It is probably the single greatest gift a parent can give to a child. Those words teach the child how to live and that they are needed and wanted. It gives them the security, boldness, confidence and the bedrock with which to build a life.

Even with my granddaughters, I whisper to them that I have a secret I want to tell them and when they lean in to hear it, I whisper “I love you.” They giggle and say, “papa you always say that,” but when they get older, they will remember those little whispers of love. Maybe one day they will even lean down and whisper the same words to their grandchildren. KT