Category Archives: Family

Coming out of your shoes

We go on this annual camping trip to Vogel State Park in the Blue Ridge Mountains every year during the 4th of July week. Elaine and I have been going as a family since 1981 and her family went every year when they were growing up.

There are very few traditions in our lives that mean more to us than this annual trip to the mountains. There are so many memories of my daughters when they were growing up and those trips to Vogel. There is probably 25-30 families that we know and are friends with that all go this same week. All of our children have grown up together. It is like stepping into great memories every time we go.

We have had many dear friends that have passed on that were a part of Vogel. Real heroes in our lives. One person in particular was Bobby Brannon who passed away several years ago. He was the glue for our group of friends and he was bear of a man who when he saw you, you were going to be hugged whether you wanted it or not. When I refer the term “hug” that is maybe a little understatement. When Bobby Brannon hugged you, it was full double arm wrap and squeeze that left no doubt that you had been properly greeted.

One thing that has been a constant at Vogel is nightly softball games. Bobby was always the leader in organizing the games and after his passing the duty has fallen to Uncle Billy (as all the kids call him) and Alan (Billy’s brother in-law).

The term “coming out of your shoes” started with the nightly softball games. The early game is always with the little kids and then the adults get to play from 7-8pm each night. The distance from home plate to the creek is only 250 feet and easily reachable for a home run. That is until age begins to settle in and your body doesn’t react like your mind remembers. When we were all young we would get up to the plate in the adults game and literally swing so hard that on occasion we would come out of our shoes. In this game you did not hold back and you went for the creek or even the campsite on the other side of the creek if you really wanted to show your stuff. Uncle Billy, Charlie and Bert (Charlie’s son) were always the creek hitters. Me, I was hit or miss (literally) but on the rare occasion was rewarded with a creek ball.

These memories and these friends are priceless to me because I remember each year and the memories from each year and I can replay the mental video of those times. The older you get, the more mental videos we all have of Vogel and the sweeter they become.

When we would play softball, we would often play in loafers (I did), sneakers, flip-flops and whatever you had on but on the occasion you would see someone swing so hard that they would lose a shoe in the process. Sometimes in life you just have to give it your all and swing as hard at the ball (or life) as you can.

These memories of Vogel become more dear me to me the older I get. Traditions are a good thing for families and children because they help us find roots in who we are and where we came from. Don’t hold back when you swing at life and just maybe you will look behind you and see a shoe you lost. KT

Christmas 1989

Last night Elaine and I watched an old video of the family Christmas in 1989. Our girls were 6 and 2 years old and Elaine and I were 31 years old. What is humbling is that in the video, Elaine and I and our girls were the same age as our older daughter and her family is today.

It seemed like last year that the video was taken. The 26 years have flown by.

In 1989, as a young family we had many dreams and plans for the future and now the future is here. I don’t know how I missed it, but in case you didn’t know, life is moving at a rapid pace. There are stages to life and sometimes you just move from stage to stage without thinking about it.

In life I think one of the most incredible things we all need to do is finish well. History is full of people that had it all once and then lost it. There have been many people that just could not go to the next stage and handle life correctly.

As I watched that video, I was reminded how important life is and the examples you set for your children. Many of the people in that video are not with us anymore and some I miss dearly because they were great people that influenced our lives.

So live life honestly and with purpose because some day, your children and grandchildren will be watching old movies of you and it is important that they remember you as someone who positively impacted their life. KT

I will see the goodness of the Lord in the here and now

My oldest daughter, Lanie Beth, shared a scripture with me that is really really powerful. The passage is Psalm 27:13. In the New International Version it reads, “I remain confident of this: I will see the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living.”

Translation, “I will see” the goodness of the Lord in the “here and now”

So many people go to church all their lives and only expect to see God’s hand and his goodness when they die. This passage says that I will see it, meaning while I am alive in the here and now.

In Psalms 23, it says in verse 5 that “he will prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies.” Well, your enemies are not in heaven rather they are right here on earth in the living. Get the image of the Lord preparing a table/feast for only you in front of the people that mean you harm while they have to watch. Your enemies will know that God is with you.

In Malachi 3:10 &11, says “If you are a tither, he will rebuke the devourer for your sakes.” This means if you are a tither, God will have your back and rebuke and handle those people who try to bring you harm.

I heard a Wall Street portfolio fund manager say during an interview that tithing was the best investment you will ever make. I believe this is true. The bible speaks to people that make money and lose money as though they had holes in their pockets. I believe tithing is the umbrella of God that will cover you over a life span. It doesn’t mean you will always make the right decision and never make a mistake, rather it means that in your later years you will look back on your life and see that God was with you and your decisions more times than not and that he protected and insulated you.

All three of these passage speaks to God being involved in our lives in the here and now and not just when we get to heaven. He loves you as a father and wants the best for you and your family but he will not force himself into your life, rather he will wait for you to call on him. KT

My two son in-laws

Both of my daughters are married to some great guys. My oldest daughter has been married for 8 years and my youngest daughter has been married for almost 6 years.

I count myself very blessed because I not only have great son in-laws but I also look at them as sons. They are both very fine, honest and straightforward men. As a father, it brings great comfort knowing that your baby girls are married to the right kind of guys. So many fathers don’t know if their girls will be treated right and I believe it ages a father when they worry about their children’s happiness and safety.

All Elaine and I knew were girls because we never had sons. When I realized I had boys now in the family, it was like I had been released to go to car shows, play golf and do guy stuff.

My girls to this day never knew how closely I watched the boys they were dating, but trust me when I tell you, I had my finger on the pulse. If needed I would have literally put my finger on the boy’s pulse. Ha. There were a few guys they dated along the way that I didn’t like or trust and by the grace of God, they went by the wayside. I used to have visions of me and the boy’s fathers in the front yard having a fight because I had put their little baby boy in the hospital. Ha. If you have daughters, you know there is nothing that will stand between you and their safety.

When my oldest daughter brought her to-be husband home for the first time, I knew he was fine young man who was raised right and honest. You can see it in the eyes. When I met my youngest daughter’s to-be husband, he and I locked eyes and I could see he was pure, honest and good.

I will tell you I have the best God arranged for my daughters and my family. I literally would trust them with all I have and I did trust them with the most precious possessions Elaine and I have, our two daughters.

Count your blessings

In the movie White Christmas, Bing Crosby sings a song to Rosemary Clooney in front of the fireplace about counting your blessings instead of sheep to help you go to sleep. The words go “when you are worried and you can’t sleep, count your blessings instead of sheep, and you’ll fall to sleep counting your blessings.”

I just read an article (and donated some money) about a young Michigan husband and wife with two little girls and both the husband and wife have serious cancer. The little daughters are 3 and 1 years old. Their family is rallying around them and their two little girls. The pictures of the young family look like a young family I know very well.

I was at work and eating a salad at my desk and pulled up USA TODAY and the new story about the family was on the front page. As you can guess, I was in a hurry, hence eating at my desk and had a thousand things rolling through my mind about that or that deal and what needed to be done. This article stopped me in my tracks and I paused to pray (and give) for that young family.

I have written before about routine and normal days and how we many times take these for granted when we really should be thankful. We all are searching for significance in life and trying to improve our place in life and with that, often comes a restlessness when we encounter a standard, normal, uneventful and routine day. When these days happen, may this blog post help you to realize how very precious and priceless these routine days really are.

Pray for Ben and Shelby Offrink and their two little girls from Lowell Michigan. KT