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Mental Backpack

Years ago, with several friends, we decided to go hike the Appalachian trail for a couple of days. None of us were experienced. We found out after the fact that the weight of your backpack and all its contents should not exceed 20% of your weight.

I packed mine with cans of beef stew, Beanie Weenies, bottles of tea etc. My pack weighted about 65 pounds. We parked the cars and the first climb right out of the gate was about a half mile on what seemed like at a 45-degree angle to the first rest station. I almost didn’t make it. When I did, I had used a full day’s worth of energy in the first hour. Ha. We ate all the heavy food that day to lighten our packs. The next day was a lot easier because my pack was much lighter.

My point – many times we carry a mental backpack with us everywhere we go. In that pack is all the hurts, slights, and emotional baggage from our past. Picture in your mind a person carrying a heavy backpack everywhere they go, even to the bathroom. They carry it because they want to keep all the pain with them and refuse to set the backpack down.

Forgiveness is the most powerful answer we have for past hurts. Forgiveness doesn’t require the other person to accept it. You are in full control to give forgiveness or carry the unforgiveness in your backpack. My advice – Lighten the load and start pulling out the items you’ve been carrying for years. It will make your hike through life much easier and much more enjoyable. KT

Delivering the message

I find that when delivering important news, whether good or unpleasant, it is best to get right to the point. Many times, email is not your friend when delivering a message. In our line of work for instance, when we have a buyer that didn’t get the deal, it is always best to deliver that message personally. When you deliver the message over email, it tells that recipient that you are ducking the responsibility. It also tells him that he is not important enough for a personal phone call.

Speaking of delivering a message, I am reminded of the story of a guy that was opening a new store and his friend wanted to do something nice for him. He ordered flowers for his grand opening and told the florist what he wanted to say on the card. He didn’t hear from his friend for several days and he went by his friend’s new store and saw the flowers he had sent and looked at the card. It read “with our deepest sympathy and sincere condolences.”

He immediately called the florist and complained about the card. The florist said, “it could be worse.” How could it possibly be worse the man asked? “Well,” the florist said. “Somewhere at a funeral is a bouquet of flowers with a card that reads “congratulations on your new location.” Ha

Social media, emails, texts etc. will never take the place of the personal touch. See, it is that person to person contact that leads to relationships, not an email. KT

Two pieces of wisdom from my late father in-law

My late father in-law owned a fence company from the mid 50’s through the late 90’s. My wife and I were having lunch with her brother and his wife yesterday and her brother quoted two pieces of wisdom he learned from his father, my father in -law.

  • There is just some people’s money you don’t want
  • Make it while you are young because when you get older, you won’t have the patience or stamina.

Both statements are so very true. Perception, intuition, and gut instinct become more defined and well-tuned the older we get. Age just does that to us. What we wouldn’t have given a second thought to when we were young, now gives us pause. You read people quicker because that impression is filtered through years of experience. It is just natural evolution.

Like the above, when it comes to patience, it not that you necessarily lack the patience you had when you were younger, you just get to the decision quicker. Ha. When you are young, you just have more energy, strength and can work harder and longer but when you get older, after you cut the grass, you need a nap. Again, just natural evolution.

Funny story. I was on a call today with a client I am selling a hotel for in New Orleans, and he has three partners. I was showing the hotel four weeks ago to a buyer and I met with him and his partners at the hotel. I was shaking hands with the partners and when I got to the last one, I knew within eight seconds this guy was going to be a problem. Call it gut instinct, but I just knew. Sure enough, I find out today that that partner is in fact going to be a problem. There are just some people you meet that you don’t want to be involved with.

My father in-law was Max Phillips and while he might have been short in stature, make no mistake, he was a man’s man. He had two speeds in life, asleep and wide open. When he was working, you have never seen a man (except for Larry) work so hard and so fast. When he was fishing, he would be working three rods and reels at the same time. When he was telling a joke, you couldn’t help but laugh with him. When he told you he loved you, he left no doubt in your mind. When Elaine and I first started dating, I got a good look at Max and his eyes warned me not to ever hurt his baby. Even though he didn’t say it out loud, he knew I understood. I loved him dearly and very few people have had the level of impression on my life as Max Phillips. KT

Masters/ Augusta National little-known facts

The first-ever Masters Golf Tournament was held in 1934. It was first called the Augusta National Invitation Tournament and the name was changed to Masters Tournament in 1939
At the inaugural Masters in 1934, the total purse was $5,000, with $1,500 going to the winner.
The 1967 Masters was the first sporting event ever broadcast live to an overseas audience.
In the history of the Masters Tournament at Augusta National, there have been 33 holes-in-one, including two in 2021.
The tradition of awarding the tournament winner a green jacket did not begin until 1949. The Green Jacket comes with some rules – jackets are kept on club grounds, taking them off the premises is forbidden. The only exception is for the Masters winner, who is allowed to take their jacket home for one year, then must be returned to the Club. Gary Player is the only Masters Winner to not have his Jacket locked up at Augusta. He was able to keep it by “forgetting” to bring it back after he won the 61’ tournament.
Almost everything is wrapped in green for a very good reason. Between the Green Jackets and the golf course itself, there’s a lot of green to be seen at the Masters. This color trend carries over into the food options, with beverages typically being served in green cups and sandwiches and snacks wrapped in green paper. The reason? So that any piece of trash a patron might drop won’t show up on TV.

Augusta National is ran as an absolute dictatorship. The chairman makes all the decisions and there is never a vote among the members. What he says, goes.

Funny story. My friend Spooky Craddock tells the story of Dwight D. “Ike” Eisenhower when we was the sitting president of the United States. Some will remember there used to be a big tree in the 17th fairway that stuck out well into the fairway. Every time Ike would play, he would hit his ball into that tree. One business meeting, Ike was present when Clifford Roberts was chairman of Augusta National and Ike (remember he was the US President) stood up and said, “I make a motion that we cut down that tree on the 17th fairway” and sat down. Clifford Roberts said “sir you may be the president of the United States but I am the chairman of August National and your motion is denied. Anyone else have anything they want to say?” it was crickets. ha

When is enough, enough?

This is possibly one of the biggest problems in many areas of our lives. We just don’t know when enough is enough. I believe that joy, rest, and peace come from contentment. Contentment comes from enough.

Many people spend their best years trying to get to the next house, the next deal, the next thrill, the next marriage, the next look, the next invitation, the next car, the next (you fill in the blank.) The question we should be asking ourselves is, when will I finally be ok with me and where I am now. When will enough be enough?

I look at the US political landscape (don’t get me started,) singers, actors, wall street and influencers etc.  and clearly enough is not enough for most of them. When you look at what is happening around the world, this seems to be a reoccurring issue.

The first words in Psalm 23 says; the Lord is my shepherd, I shall not want. The entire psalm is the picture of rest, assurance, confidence and having enough.

Find that place where you can sit down, rest, take a deep breath and not think about that next thing. KT